Episode 12: Empaths: Stop Attracting Narcissists
Let me get real with you for a minute. If you're an empath who keeps attracting emotionally unavailable people, this episode is going to hit different. And maybe you are not even aware that you are doing so!
I'm sharing something deeply personal - my own story of growing up with a narcissistic parent and how it turned me into the ultimate "people pleaser." Maybe you'll see yourself in this story too.
Here's what happened to me: I learned early that love wasn't guaranteed. I had to earn it by being the perfect daughter - helpful, quiet, always anticipating what my parent needed. Sound familiar?
This is how empaths are made. We become these incredibly sensitive people who feel everything, but we never learned how to feel our own needs first.
And here's the part that might surprise you - empaths and narcissists are actually two sides of the same coin. We're both trying to get our needs met, just in opposite ways. Narcissists take, we give. They demand attention, we give it freely.
But here's the thing that changed everything for me: those difficult people in your life? They're not there for you to fix. They're there to show you what you haven't healed in yourself yet.
I used to fall for people's potential all the time. I'd think, "If I just love them enough, they'll change." Wrong. So wrong. You can't save anyone, and honestly? It's not your job.
Real empathy comes from a place of wholeness, not emptiness. When you've done the work to heal your own wounds and set healthy boundaries, you can support others without losing yourself in the process.
I'm walking you through exactly how to break this cycle - from recognizing when you're falling into old patterns to actually feeling your own emotions (yes, that's a thing empaths struggle with!).
The people showing up in your life are your greatest teachers. They're reflecting back the parts of you that still need healing. Once you get this, everything changes.
Core Truths:
- Your empathy likely developed as a survival mechanism in childhood
- You attract difficult people because you're trying to heal your own wounds through them
- Healthy boundaries will feel uncomfortable at first - that's normal
- You cannot heal or save anyone else (and that's actually beautiful)
- Your sensitivity is a superpower when you know how to protect it
Ready to Transform Your Relationships?
If you're tired of giving until you're empty, check out my episodes on Shadow Work and stay tuned for my upcoming Inner Child Healing series. And if you're ready to turn your empathic gifts into your greatest strength, visit the Mystic Psychology Academy.
P.S. Sweet empath, you don't have to earn love by fixing everyone around you. You're already worthy, just as you are.
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